Talking to Yourself is a Good Thing

Self-talk is your internal dialogue. It’s influenced by your subconscious mind, and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas.

Self-talk can be both negative and positive. It can be encouraging, and it can be distressing. Much of your self-talk depends on your personality. If you’re an optimist, your self-talk may be more hopeful and positive. The opposite is generally true if you tend to be a pessimist.

Positive thinking and optimism can be effective stress management tools. Indeed, having a more positive outlook on life can provide you with some health benefits. For example, one 2010 study shows optimists have a better quality of life.

If you believe your self-talk is too negative, or if you want to emphasize positive self-talk, you can learn to shift that inner dialogue. It can help you be a more positive person, and it may improve your health.

Why is it good for you?

Self-talk can enhance your performance and general well-being. For example, research shows self-talk can help athletes with performance. It may help them with endurance or to power through a set of heavy weights.

Furthermore, positive self-talk and a more optimistic outlook can have other health benefits, including:

  • Increased vitality
  • Greater life satisfaction
  • Improved immune function
  • Reduced pain
  • Better cardiovascular health
  • Better physical well-being
  • Less stress and distress

It’s not clear why optimists and individuals with more positive self-talk experience these benefits. However, research suggests people with positive self-talk may have mental skills that allow them to solve problems, think differently, and be more efficient at coping with hardships or challenges. This can reduce the harmful effects of stress and anxiety.

How does it work?

Before you can learn to practice more self-talk, you must first identify negative thinking. This type of thinking and self-talk generally falls into four categories:

  • Personalizing: You blame yourself for everything.
  • Magnifying: You focus on the negative aspects of a situation, ignoring any and all of the positive.
  • Catastrophizing: You expect the worst, and you rarely let logic or reason persuade you otherwise.
  • Polarizing: You see the world in black and white, or good and bad. There’s nothing in between and no middle ground for processing and categorizing life events.

When you begin to recognize your types of negative thinking, you can work to turn them into positive thinking. This task requires practice and time and doesn’t develop overnight. The good news is that is can be done. A 2012 study shows even small children can learn to correct negative self-talk.

Examples of Positive and Negative Self-Talk

These scenarios are examples of when and how you can turn negative self-talk into positive self-talk. Again, it takes practice. Recognizing some of your own negative self-talk in these scenarios may help you develop skills to flip the thought when it occurs.

  • Negative: I’ll disappoint everyone if I change my mind.
  • Positive: I have the power to change my mind. Others will understand.
  • Negative: I failed and embarrassed myself.
  • Positive: I’m proud of myself for even trying. That took courage.
  • Negative: I’m overweight and out of shape. I might as well not bother.
  • Positive: I am capable and strong, and I want to get healthier for me.
  • Negative: I let everyone on my team down when I didn’t score.
  • Positive: Sports are a team event. We win and lose together.
  • Negative: I’ve never done this before and I’ll be bad at it.
  • Positive: This is a wonderful opportunity for me to learn from others and grow.
  • Negative: There’s just no way this will work.
  • Positive: I can and will give it my all to make it work.

How do I use this on a daily basis?

Positive self-talk takes practice if it’s not your natural instinct. If you’re generally more pessimistic, you can learn to shift your inner dialogue to be more encouraging and uplifting.

However, forming a new habit takes time and effort. Over time, your thoughts can shift. Positive self-talk can become your norm. These tips can help:

Identify negative self-talk traps

Certain scenarios may increase your self-doubt and lead to more negative self-talk. Work events, for example, may be particularly hard. Pinpointing when you experience the most negative self-talk can help you anticipate and prepare.

Check in with your feelings

Stop during events or bad days and evaluate your self-talk. Is it becoming negative? How can you turn it around?

Find the humor

Laughter can help relieve stress and tension. When you need a boost for positive self-talk, find ways to laugh, such as watching funny animal videos or a comedian.

Surround yourself with positive people

Whether or not you notice it, you can absorb the outlook and emotions of people around you. This includes negative and positive, so choose positive people when you can.

Give yourself positive affirmations

Sometimes, seeing positive words or inspiring images can be enough to redirect your thoughts. Post small reminders in your office, in your home, and anywhere you spend a significant amount of time.

When should I seek support?

Positive self-talk can help you improve your outlook on life. It can also have lasting positive health benefits, including improved well-being and a better quality of life. However, self-talk is a habit made over a lifetime.

If you tend to have negative self-talk and err on the side of pessimism, you can learn to change it. It takes time and practice, but you can develop uplifting positive self-talk.

If you find you’re not successful on your own, talk with a therapist. Mental health experts can help you pinpoint sources of negative self-talk and learn to flip the switch. Ask your health care provider for a referral to a therapist, or ask a friend or family member for a suggestion.

The above article is courtesy of My EZ Health Guide and is intended for informational purposes only.

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    Posted at 00:40h, 26 April

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    Posted at 09:10h, 25 April


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    Posted at 16:31h, 24 April

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    Posted at 16:12h, 23 April

    I talk to myself constantly. Now that I know it’s good for me, I will probably increase it.

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    Posted at 15:42h, 23 April

    I am too negative. Need to get better!

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    Posted at 10:15h, 23 April

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    Posted at 21:01h, 22 April

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    Posted at 20:09h, 22 April

    Positive thinking is an asset, not always easy to do, but being aware and trying to turn negative thoughts and ideas into positive is a good strategy.

  • Barbara Lynn Lambert
    Posted at 20:01h, 22 April

    Glad to know that talking to myself is a good thing, I do it all the time. Lol
    But yes, good to know that it is believed to be beneficial as well.

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    Posted at 19:56h, 22 April

    Yay! I’m already doing this!

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    Posted at 13:49h, 22 April

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    Posted at 21:00h, 21 April

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    Posted at 01:08h, 21 April

    I talk to myself all the time and find it to be a good thing

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    Posted at 19:35h, 20 April

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    Posted at 11:26h, 19 April

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    Posted at 04:57h, 19 April

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    Posted at 01:59h, 19 April

    The power or positive thinking is real! It will change your life!

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    Posted at 19:11h, 18 April

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    Posted at 16:40h, 18 April

    Talking to yourself in a positive manner is a good thing. Negative manner will bring you down

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    Posted at 16:13h, 18 April

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    Posted at 16:11h, 18 April

    I need to do a better job about talking positively to myself.

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    Posted at 13:57h, 18 April

    I like to help myself make plans, and it helps me keep positive outlook.

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    Posted at 04:34h, 18 April

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    Posted at 02:27h, 18 April

    Through the Lord God, “all things” are possible. Can’t get more positive than that!!

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    Posted at 02:23h, 18 April

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    Positive thinking will help motivate you.

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    Posted at 00:06h, 18 April

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    Posted at 00:00h, 18 April

    I totally agree! Positive self talk has such great advantages. Ive gotten better with this except for when I’m angry about something f really need to not focus on what’s made me angry.

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    Posted at 21:08h, 17 April


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    Posted at 17:27h, 17 April

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    Posted at 14:49h, 17 April

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    Sometimes it allows us to fellowship with God. Thanks good article.

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    Posted at 22:29h, 16 April

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    Posted at 20:53h, 16 April

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    I always talk to myself daily. It keeps me motivated and positive about myself.

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    Posted at 18:00h, 16 April

    I have been talking to myself for years. Glad to know I am not crazy.

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    Posted at 17:46h, 16 April

    Good article and so me. I talk to myself often. I’ve always tried to look at things in a positive way, but it always comes back and slaps me in the face. So if I don’t think it’s a good thing then I don’t do it regardless what others say. I do admit and my husband always tells me, that I’m a negative person which I am. No matter how hard I try nothing ever goes right.

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    Thank you

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    Good to know

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    least I know I am not crazy now

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    Thank you

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    Posted at 16:36h, 16 April

    Thank you

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    Posted at 16:21h, 16 April

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    Posted at 15:58h, 16 April

    Good to Know. I do at times self-talk to myself but people see me and they think I am crazy. Now that I have this good source of information I will continue self-talk positive.

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  • Tiffany Cell
    Posted at 15:51h, 16 April

    Great article! This really resonates with me, as someone who tends to have too much negative self talk in general. I am working to change that habit, and the suggestions in this article will help.

  • lula green
    Posted at 15:51h, 16 April

    Good article I talk to myself all the time to work through situations. When you speak out loud it makes it a little more real and you can work through it. Positive thinking is going for all.

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    Posted at 15:51h, 16 April


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    Posted at 15:50h, 16 April

    Great article, thank you

  • Kathy
    Posted at 15:41h, 16 April

    Thanks for the article. Sending positive thoughts! 🙂

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    Posted at 15:40h, 16 April

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    Posted at 15:38h, 16 April

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    Posted at 15:31h, 16 April

    I talk to myself all the time. I bet people think, I’m crazy or something. I always say positive things.

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    Posted at 15:23h, 16 April

    I often talk to myself glad to know this is a healty ways of relieving stress.

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    Posted at 15:23h, 16 April

    This article is really good. Self-talk is helpful and even posting positive sayings on your mirror can make a difference.

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    Posted at 15:17h, 16 April

    Talking to yourself is a good thing

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    Posted at 15:06h, 16 April

    Great. Thanks

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    Posted at 15:05h, 16 April

    Great, i am going to try this, thanks a lot

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    Posted at 15:03h, 16 April

    good info

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    Posted at 15:03h, 16 April

    Thank you great info! I love talking to myself!

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    Posted at 15:01h, 16 April

    Thank you

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    Posted at 15:00h, 16 April

    Great article, it’s good to know information like this. Thank you

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    Posted at 14:59h, 16 April

    Great article, it’s good to know information like this

  • Kenneth Melton
    Posted at 14:58h, 16 April

    Ok, thank you

  • Kerrie Bates
    Posted at 14:58h, 16 April

    Good info. Hope to use and be more positive!!

  • Dustin Walker
    Posted at 14:58h, 16 April

    Yeah stuck in a truck for hours if you dont talk to yourself you might need to start

  • John w
    Posted at 14:56h, 16 April

    Best article yet

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    Posted at 14:56h, 16 April


  • Alexander Broderick
    Posted at 14:56h, 16 April

    Interesting. I might have test this 🙂

  • Matt
    Posted at 14:50h, 16 April

    Good article.

  • Hannah Pendergrass
    Posted at 14:48h, 16 April

    good information thanks

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    Posted at 14:44h, 16 April

    Good information thank you

  • Donna Taliaferro
    Posted at 14:43h, 16 April

    Good information

    Posted at 14:26h, 16 April

    Lol. I do this all the time especially when I have a presentation at school.

  • Darby Rouzee
    Posted at 14:26h, 16 April

    I find that I have more positive self talk when I exercise more, so it’s good for me physically and mentally!

  • Beth Smith
    Posted at 14:21h, 16 April

    I work in long term care. I am as always talking to my self. I tell everyone I talk to myself so I can get the answers I want.
    I talk to myself to organize my next steps

  • Elizabeth Fogleman
    Posted at 14:10h, 16 April

    I’ve learned over time that praying true words quietly under my breath steadies me and helps me through difficult situations, ie: God, you’re here with me, help me. You promised You will not forsake me. I need you. God, you are helping me because you love me. This builds my confidence.

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    Posted at 14:07h, 16 April


  • Kim Hetrick
    Posted at 13:44h, 16 April

    Good article

  • Joanne Wilkerson
    Posted at 13:37h, 16 April

    Keeps me positive and motivated

  • Michael Tod jones
    Posted at 13:36h, 16 April

    Thank you. Very helpful!

  • Tammy Isom
    Posted at 13:18h, 16 April

    Good information…. thanks

  • Connie Cholensky
    Posted at 13:18h, 16 April

    Out loud or in our head? lol

  • Taryn Jean Williams
    Posted at 13:18h, 16 April

    Needed this today!

  • Connie Cholensky
    Posted at 13:17h, 16 April


  • steve plum
    Posted at 13:08h, 16 April

    very interesting

  • Angela Lloyd
    Posted at 13:02h, 16 April


  • Steven Mendoza
    Posted at 12:58h, 16 April

    Thank you!

  • Amanda McCord
    Posted at 12:55h, 16 April

    Good to know

  • Jim Vogel
    Posted at 12:51h, 16 April

    Great information. Confirms what I had previously learned through the reading of other similar articles. I speak to myself regularly offering encourage and positive reinforcement.

  • Lula M Scott
    Posted at 12:51h, 16 April

    Now that’s something, that I really needed to read. I have been around people who only think negative about themselves and I always tell them stop it. I love me and when I fail at something I just try harder and don’t beat myself up about. Cause I know God got my back .

  • Peggy Herrlein
    Posted at 12:48h, 16 April

    Liked the article

  • Jean Farrell
    Posted at 12:48h, 16 April

    Thanks, I now have a solid reason for talking to myself!

    Posted at 12:47h, 16 April

    I always talk to myself glad it is a good thing!

  • Randy Hines
    Posted at 12:46h, 16 April

    I work by myself a lot so I talk a lot to myself. Try to be positive even when your day runs off road.

  • Mayra Echeverria
    Posted at 12:45h, 16 April

    Ty good read

  • Mike Garner
    Posted at 12:42h, 16 April

    I read it. ..

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    Posted at 12:41h, 16 April


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    Posted at 12:41h, 16 April

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    Posted at 12:37h, 16 April

    I talk to myself all the time. LOL. Good to know its good for me!

  • Robin Thomas
    Posted at 12:36h, 16 April

    I am always trying to see the positives.

    Posted at 12:33h, 16 April

    Well said!

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    Posted at 12:33h, 16 April


  • Heather Davis
    Posted at 12:32h, 16 April

    Great Article