Talking to Yourself is a Good Thing

Self-talk is your internal dialogue. It’s influenced by your subconscious mind, and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas.

Self-talk can be both negative and positive. It can be encouraging, and it can be distressing. Much of your self-talk depends on your personality. If you’re an optimist, your self-talk may be more hopeful and positive. The opposite is generally true if you tend to be a pessimist.

Positive thinking and optimism can be effective stress management tools. Indeed, having a more positive outlook on life can provide you with some health benefits. For example, one 2010 study shows optimists have a better quality of life.

If you believe your self-talk is too negative, or if you want to emphasize positive self-talk, you can learn to shift that inner dialogue. It can help you be a more positive person, and it may improve your health.

Why is it good for you?

Self-talk can enhance your performance and general well-being. For example, research shows self-talk can help athletes with performance. It may help them with endurance or to power through a set of heavy weights.

Furthermore, positive self-talk and a more optimistic outlook can have other health benefits, including:

  • Increased vitality
  • Greater life satisfaction
  • Improved immune function
  • Reduced pain
  • Better cardiovascular health
  • Better physical well-being
  • Less stress and distress

It’s not clear why optimists and individuals with more positive self-talk experience these benefits. However, research suggests people with positive self-talk may have mental skills that allow them to solve problems, think differently, and be more efficient at coping with hardships or challenges. This can reduce the harmful effects of stress and anxiety.

How does it work?

Before you can learn to practice more self-talk, you must first identify negative thinking. This type of thinking and self-talk generally falls into four categories:

  • Personalizing: You blame yourself for everything.
  • Magnifying: You focus on the negative aspects of a situation, ignoring any and all of the positive.
  • Catastrophizing: You expect the worst, and you rarely let logic or reason persuade you otherwise.
  • Polarizing: You see the world in black and white, or good and bad. There’s nothing in between and no middle ground for processing and categorizing life events.

When you begin to recognize your types of negative thinking, you can work to turn them into positive thinking. This task requires practice and time and doesn’t develop overnight. The good news is that is can be done. A 2012 study shows even small children can learn to correct negative self-talk.

Examples of Positive and Negative Self-Talk

These scenarios are examples of when and how you can turn negative self-talk into positive self-talk. Again, it takes practice. Recognizing some of your own negative self-talk in these scenarios may help you develop skills to flip the thought when it occurs.

  • Negative: I’ll disappoint everyone if I change my mind.
  • Positive: I have the power to change my mind. Others will understand.
  • Negative: I failed and embarrassed myself.
  • Positive: I’m proud of myself for even trying. That took courage.
  • Negative: I’m overweight and out of shape. I might as well not bother.
  • Positive: I am capable and strong, and I want to get healthier for me.
  • Negative: I let everyone on my team down when I didn’t score.
  • Positive: Sports are a team event. We win and lose together.
  • Negative: I’ve never done this before and I’ll be bad at it.
  • Positive: This is a wonderful opportunity for me to learn from others and grow.
  • Negative: There’s just no way this will work.
  • Positive: I can and will give it my all to make it work.

How do I use this on a daily basis?

Positive self-talk takes practice if it’s not your natural instinct. If you’re generally more pessimistic, you can learn to shift your inner dialogue to be more encouraging and uplifting.

However, forming a new habit takes time and effort. Over time, your thoughts can shift. Positive self-talk can become your norm. These tips can help:

Identify negative self-talk traps

Certain scenarios may increase your self-doubt and lead to more negative self-talk. Work events, for example, may be particularly hard. Pinpointing when you experience the most negative self-talk can help you anticipate and prepare.

Check in with your feelings

Stop during events or bad days and evaluate your self-talk. Is it becoming negative? How can you turn it around?

Find the humor

Laughter can help relieve stress and tension. When you need a boost for positive self-talk, find ways to laugh, such as watching funny animal videos or a comedian.

Surround yourself with positive people

Whether or not you notice it, you can absorb the outlook and emotions of people around you. This includes negative and positive, so choose positive people when you can.

Give yourself positive affirmations

Sometimes, seeing positive words or inspiring images can be enough to redirect your thoughts. Post small reminders in your office, in your home, and anywhere you spend a significant amount of time.

When should I seek support?

Positive self-talk can help you improve your outlook on life. It can also have lasting positive health benefits, including improved well-being and a better quality of life. However, self-talk is a habit made over a lifetime.

If you tend to have negative self-talk and err on the side of pessimism, you can learn to change it. It takes time and practice, but you can develop uplifting positive self-talk.

If you find you’re not successful on your own, talk with a therapist. Mental health experts can help you pinpoint sources of negative self-talk and learn to flip the switch. Ask your health care provider for a referral to a therapist, or ask a friend or family member for a suggestion.

The above article is courtesy of My EZ Health Guide and is intended for informational purposes only.

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